A Day With My Granddaughter—The Importance of Saying “No”

Just say NoMy granddaughter has this magical way of getting me to say “yes” to many things that she wants. I don’t like to tell her “no,” but it is important because she needs to understand that she can’t have everything she wants. She also needs to understand that we have to earn many of the things we want.

Nearly every day she asks if we can go to the store and get something special for her. Almost, but not every, time I tell her “no.” I explain that we can’t go to the store every day to buy things. She’s five and doesn’t really like that answer, but she is getting better at accepting “no.”

The importance of teaching children the value of money

Children know more about money than we often give them credit for. My granddaughter knows that things cost money. The problem is, to her anyway, everything is $1.

dollarsWe have been working on teaching her that even $1 has value and that “since money doesn’t grow on trees” she can’t have every toy she sees! (Actually, since money is a form of paper, I guess technically money does grow on trees—or in them, anyway!)

When we go to the store, she wants to immediately go to the toy section and decide which toy she wants to get. We tell her that she can’t always get a toy, but she wants to look anyway. Then, she very methodically looks over the toys she is interested in. It is usually something like a Hatchimal which is a toy that is inside of an egg that “hatches.” They are very cute. We will often get her one of the smaller sets. She is on a quest for a “golden Hatchimal!”

But we don’t get her one every time we go. In fact, the last time we went to the store, we had her use her own money to purchase the Hatchimal set. It cost her $10. She had earned the money by doing a few chores around the house like picking up her toys and putting them away. She also had $5 from her birthday and she wanted to use that money, as well.

She was very proud of her purchase. I think it may have meant even more to her because she had purchased it herself with her own earned money!

The value of money 2

When my granddaughter was little it was really weird to me that people we didn’t know thought she was so cute that they Piggy Bank savingswould give us money for her. Up until she was about three-years-old people did this.

“Oh she is so cute! Is she your granddaughter?”

“Yes. My spouse and I are raising her.”

“Well, she is so cute. Here is a dollar.”

Weird! Maybe it was because we, as her grandparents, were raising her, all I know is that little girl has a lot of dollars in the bank and a good lot of them came from scenarios like the above one.

This is part of the reason that when she wants a toy or something special, we allow her to use her own money because we want her to feel genuine ownership of the items she buys.

Don’t misunderstand, she is a very grateful child and is thankful for what she gets be in a piece of gum or a toy, and she is very careful for the most part with her toys. But when she has that “ownership” of a toy it seems that the value for her is greater. I think my spouse and I have done a good job of instilling that in her. Of course, sometimes we have to remind her that when she leaves something on the floor and it gets broken that we will not be getting her a new one. She is pretty good about picking things up that she doesn’t want to get accidentally broken!

The value of money 3

pink bicycleLast year we bought our granddaughter a new bicycle. She loves her bicycle, but when she saw a new bicycle in the store, she thought we should buy it for her. We explained that it was $75 for the bike she wanted. We also explained that her other bike was almost new and that it worked just fine.

She was convinced in her mind that she needed that new bike. She started a slow burn toward a total meltdown right in the Walmart! I was embarrassed, but I stood my ground. I knelt down by her and wiped her tears away and gave her a hug and told her that things would be fine. I pointed out the many great things about her old bike, especially the fact that it was PINK!

It wasn’t easy to say “no” in this case, but we got through it. She has ridden her awesome, pink bike all summer. It’s the bike she rode during our ride last night and the one she will ride when she gets home from a family visit on Sunday.

At the rate she is growing, she probably will get a new bike next year and undoubtedly it will be pink!

The value of love

I put this final one in here because I think ultimately, we do all of these things for our children/grandchildren because we love them and want them to make a difference in the world. We want them to be happy, well-adjusted and honest, up-right citizens in this planet that we call home. I think love is the key to all the problems we might face. Sure, money is nice to have and it’s nice to be able to buy things, but without love, those things are just things that will one day collect dust, rust and decay away. It will be the memories and the lessons learned that will last!

I would love to hear your thoughts. Please leave questions or comments below and I will get back to you very soon!

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  1. HI there,
    I have been looking at your blog it’s wonderful to learn from your site how to go around to say NO when it necessary to say it; without making your little one feel that you have authority over his or her thought although you have it.

    you deal with grand child like a friend and make her feel responsible of her act. that a good way to teach someone how to take his responsibility.

    Keep sharing the good wisdom!

    • Thank you for your comments. Saying “no” is a hard thing to learn to do, especially to our children/grandchildren, but I would rather say “no” once in a while than have a spoiled brat on my hands! Best wishes!

  2. I enjoyed reading your story. The lesson is a hard one to learn. I find myself forgetting it all the time it seems. I could really use some more “No” in my life.

    Thanks for that ad placement with the photo so that I did not have to go search whatever that thing was? A “golden Hatchimal!”? Well, okay once you see it, it makes sense.

    Is the next lesson, quality? All the trendy things seem to be just enough quality to last until the carton has been opened and tossed out. Oops! The toy just broke.

    All the best raising your granddaughter. Maybe the $$ gifts were a way of saying thanks for taking on the responsibility?

    • Thank you for you kind comments. It is hard to say “no” to her and for me, it’s hard to say “no” to anyone. I’m glad I posted the ad so people would know what the Hatchimal was! 🙂 Thank you again. And check back often for the ongoing saga!

  3. Really interesting read. The point that you made that its teaching about earning money to pay for things you want is very true. I think you are doing a good job, even though its hard to say no, but its better in the long term. The Hatchimals look fun.

    • Thanks for you comments. The Hatchimals are a lot of fun! You warm them in your hands and when they are ready to “hatch” the little heart on them turns color! They are cute little figures inside!

      Best wishes,

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