With millions of grandchildren being raised by their grandparents, I honestly thought there would be a lot more books available on this topic. I was wrong. There were very few that I could find and most of them were written several years ago. There were four books, however, that I reviewed that I think were appropriate to my search and so I thought I would share them with you.
Actually, there are a lot of books out there about how to raise children and, since those of us who are in the position of raising our grandchildren, those books may be considered, as well. The goal of this article though, is to look at books specifically written for those of us who are grandparents.
To Grandma’s House, We . . . Stay: When You Have to Stop Spoiling Your Grandchildren and Start Raising Them
This book was the first one I found and has several updates. It was written in 2006 by Sally Houtman, MS.
The book is described by Goodreads as a “Timely road map that guides grandparents through these uncharted territories…” It offers real solutions to the real problems that grandparents who are raising their grandchildren face on a daily basis.
“It blends compassionate wisdom and good, old-fashioned nuts and bolts advice to lead them through the obstacle course of emotions, conflicts and social considerations that lie ahead.”
What I think is the plus of this book is that it contains eight appendices of resources which is always something we are looking for.
This book earned a 4.75 rating out of 5 on Goodreads.
This is an out of print book and is available through private sellers on Amazon.
Raising Our Children’s Children: Room in the Heart
This heartfelt book was written by Deborah Doucette and is based on her own experiences of raising her grandchild.
Because it is written from personal experience, the book may be better than others on the subject simply because it is written from actual real-life experience.
This book looks at the “myriad factors involved in kinship care, specifically when grandparents begin to raise their grandchildren.”
The book includes not only Doucette’s experiences, but also other stories from people who have been tasked with raising their grandchildren. It also includes advice from Dr. Jeffrey LaCure.
The book has been updated and is in its second edition. It includes “recent social developments, such as the trend toward multi-generational family living where children, their parents and their grandparents all live under one roof.”
The book received a Goodreads rating of 4.24 out of 5 from 21 ratings.
Grandparents as Parents, Second Edition, A Survival Guide for Raising a Second Family
This book by Sylvie de Toledo and Deborah Edler Brown is written for the millions of us who are raising our grandchildren today.
“You need information, support and practical guidance you can count on to keep your family strong…. Learn effective strategies to help you cope with the stresses of parenting the second time around, care for vulnerable grandkids and set boundaries with their often-troubled parents, and navigate the maze of government aid, court proceedings and special education.” From the Amazon review…
The book has been updated to reflect current laws and policies affecting families.
This book has received a Goodreads rating of 4.08 out of 5 with 24 ratings.
As a side note, I read a recent AARP article titled New Help for Grandparents Raising Grandchildren posted on their website on July 10, 2018. This article includes information about the recent changes in legislation that make it a bit easier for us grandparents raising our grandchildren. The legislation, the Supporting Grandparents Raising Grandchildren Act, will help us out especially those who are affected by the rising opioid crisis.
The Grandfamily Guidebook: Wisdom and Support for Grandparents Raising Grandchildren
This book is also a pretty amazing find. It is by Andrew Adesman, M.D. and Christine Adamec and is the most recently written book with a publication date of August 28, 2018. With that in mind, the information contained is the freshest, but also contains the wisdom of the past as grandparents raising their grandchildren is not exactly a new occurrence.
The following is the publisher’s description of the book:
“Are you one of nearly 3 million grandparents across North America raising your grandchildren? You may have done all this parenting stuff before, but times have changed since you raised your own kids, and you likely never thought you’d be raising kids again.
“What has led to all these family issues and the growing need for grandparents to step up? Now more than ever, substance use and addiction have made many birth parents simply unfit for the job, whether the problem is alcohol, opioids, or other drugs. Family dynamics might also be undermined by parents’ mental health or medical problems, incarceration, or a simple lack of preparedness for family responsibilities. Whatever the reason for your new role, you must now help your grandchildren adjust to their extended family as part of their everyday life, through the best care you are able to provide. While your new role means that you will likely have to change the way you live, the kinship care you provide your grandchildren might make all the difference in the world.
“In The Grandfamily Guidebook—which leading medical experts have called a “must-have” resource for grandparents raising grandchildren—authors Andrew Adesman, MD, and Christine Adamec offer expert medical advice, helpful insights gleaned from other grandparents, and data mined from the 2016 Adesman Grandfamily Study—the broadest and most diverse research study of its kind to date. You’ll also find hands-on tips you’ll be able to reference whenever you need them, including how to cope with difficult birth parents, school issues and social-life challenges, problem behaviors that stem from a difficult past, and your own self-care.
Starting with its foreword by the renowned Dr. William Sears, across this book you will find practical, inspiring help as you navigate the financial impacts, legal considerations, and medical issues that commonly arise when grandparents and grandchildren start becoming a grandfamily.”
This book incorporates a lot of facets of this trying and difficult transition not only for us grandparents, but also for our grandchildren and our children.
As grandparents who are raising their grandchildren, we are always in search of resources that will help us along our journey in raising good grandchildren. These books are just a very few resources. We are seriously considering writing our own e-book on this subject which will include our experiences—our ups and downs—along with the resources we find.
Please note that there are likely other books on this subject out there, but the list is limited. We found that these four met the criteria of what we were looking for in our review which included: grandparents raising grandchildren, resources, medical, legal and other items.
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About the author
Karin Nauber, “G.G.” is a professional journalist who has worked in the newspaper business for the past 27 years. She is also a grandmother who, along with her spouse, is raising one of their granddaughters. G.G. has five grandchildren with whom she enjoys spending as much time as possible. She began this website with the hope of helping other grandparents who may be struggling with their role as parent/grandparents. If you would like to contact her, please do so at: firstname.lastname@example.org.